Saving Dollars Makes LOTS of Sense!

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“Saving Dollars makes LOTS of sense!” ~Nadirah A. Shakir~

1. Catch the maitine’e: The matine’e is 6.50 in comparison to the movies after 12.00 pm  which is about 4.00 to 6.00 bucks more. If you’re a movie buff like me, you’ll definitely want to take advantage of the savings!

2. Do your own nails: A good manicure and pedicure is about 40.00 bucks, doing it yourself is free once you invest in the tools. To purchase all of the tools to do your nails is about 45.00 bucks, and once you have them they last all year. The only thing that you’ll probably have to purchase every two months is nail polish which is about 2.00 to 6.00 bucks depending on wear you shop! Most women get a “mani” and “pedi” every month. That’s 480.00 bucks a year!

3. Wear and do your own hair: I know hair extensions are the thing; but I know how much quality hair extensions cost! PLUS I know how much it cost to have a someone do a good weave job. A good weave/hair extension job is anywhere from 150.00 to 350.00 dollars, plus the hair! You’re talking 500.00 to 600.00 dollars. On average, people who wear hair extension get it done every two months.  That’s 3,600.00 dollars a year!

4. Eat healthy: Nutrition is medicine. So why not buy it at the grocery store as opposed to the pharmacy. It’s a whole lot cheaper…and I’ll bet it taste better too!

5. Work out regularly: Research shows that people who exercise regularly are less likely to get sick during the year. Being healthy eliminates the cost of doctor visits, medical expenses, and medications. Move your body!

6. Walk or jog to your destination: Gas prices are outrageous! So why not walk to the place you have to go if it’s in a 10 mile radius. You’ll save gas, you’ll being doing the environment a favor, and you’ll be toning your lower body and burning calories! It’s a triple win!

7. Cut coupons: I know we dread it, cutting out the coupons that come in the mail, and then hauling a purse load of them to the grocery store and then, being the one in the front of the grocery line holding up traffic. It’s a bit much I know, but the savings definitely add up. Cut your coupons and try to have them organized when you go to the store so that you don’t hold up the line please…thank you.

8. Shop on clearance rack or accept hand-me-downs: Let’s face it! There’s always that one item or outfit that just came out that you are definitely going to want to get your claws on, and you are willing to pay top dollar just to have it before anyone else does! But what if you can, wait! What if you can wait until it goes on clearance and buy it for 35 or 50 % less than the original value? What if you were even more patient and waited until one of you friends or family members brought it, and got it for free once they decide to hand it down! Free—free!

9. Subscribe to your favorite magazine: We all have one—a favorite magazine that is, and we’ll stop buy the book store or the magazine stand to buy it every month for $6.00 to $9.00 bucks! If however you subscribe to your favorite magazine it normally equates to $20.00 to $35.00 bucks per year. Buying your favorite magazine will add up to 108.00 dollars per year as opposed to 35.00 a year for a subscription. Save 73 bucks and just subscribe!

10. Buy your own coffee: On average a cup of coffee is two dollars. Now if you get fancy and start adding shots of espresso, asking for almond or soy milk instead of regular milk, you can spend well over five bucks for a cup of coffee. Those of us who are true coffee drinkers have to have our cup of Joe everyday! If we are buying it out we are spending any where between $730.00 to $1,825.00 per year on coffee alone! Now what if you are a two cup drinker! OMG!!! YIKES!

Practicing The Presence for Emotional Wellbeing & Personal Growth

“Be present, become the present, receive the present.” ~Nadirah A. Shakir~

Practicing the presence is about more than sitting in a silent room, and focusing on our breathing. Practicing the presence is focus and awareness. It’s a way of being—how one travels through life. Although meditation and deep breathing are catalyst for becoming present, cultivating awareness, and centering, true presence requires much more. True presence requires openness which is what deep breathing promotes. Meditation (depending on the type) fosters awareness and facilitates centering and grounding oneself.

Why would anyone want to become present? We practice the presence so that the precious moments in our lives don’t fly pass us as we jolt towards the future; and we practice the presence so our progression forward is not stuck in the past. The present moment is really all that we have to make any substantial changes in our lives. I once heard a cognitive professional say, “If a person is stuck in the past that will eventually make them depressed and stagnant. If a person is fixated on the future that will create anxiety, but if a person can learn to focus their attention on the present moment then they have the potential to create the life that they desire.”

For some of us the present moment—our present experience  may be undesirable. It may be something that is causing us lots of pain on an emotional, mental, or physical level. What do we do then? Do we stay with the pain? Do we stay present? The answer to all three questions is, yes, you stay present. You stay present with the intention to understand, and heal your current condition. Think about it. Would you want to take the way you currently feel with you as you move forward? More than likely you won’t, unfortunately though this is exactly what happens. People try to escape their current unpleasant conditions by acting like they don’t exist, and just “getting on with it.” And while they may jolt ahead a couple miles, guess what shows up in the future? The same pain they tried to escape a couple miles back.

Stay present even if it hurts, but employ the intention to understand the source of the pain so that you can do the healing work which is required for growth. Don’t try to bandage it and get going! Allow it to rise to the surface so that you can see what’s going on, so that you can heal it. What’s covered won’t get enough air to heal thoroughly. Being present with our discomfort doesn’t have to be so uncomfortable if we employ an attitude of gratitude regarding the experience, and relinquish the desire to control how things play out. This is where your openness comes in into play. If you are open to the present experience the Universe will provide all of the people, resources, and situations that you require to truly heal.

When we practice the presence, we become the present, and we receive the present that the Universe wants to gift us. How is this possible? This is possible because when we are present we are both open to Spirit and aligned with the Universe. This openness and alignment puts us in a state of receptivity. When we are receptive we allow others to share with us, and in turn we share with them energetically and otherwise. Practicing the presence puts you on the path of healing, self- discovery, and personal growth.

Be well with yourself. Learn from and release the past, look forward and plan for the future, and remember, the present moment is the true gift. Wishing you all the gifts of today, and all the blessings in every PRESENT moment that is sure to come. Nadirah A. Shakir

Spiritual Dating for The Truth Seeking Single

You know Spirit will offer us many ways to learn life lessons. Spirit may be trying to teach you a life lesson through food. It could be your body or your health. Maybe it’s your finances or your life purpose. For many of us Spirits seeks to teach us through our romantic relationships. Our romantic relationships affect us the most, because they are often heart-centered. So when something goes array within our romantic relationships it takes us right back to center—our core—our heart space. Their is a wealth of information with in our heart space, and we can tap into that wealth of knowledge when we decide to become still, surrender, and listen. The energy with in our hearts is a culmination of our thoughts, beliefs, emotions and experiences. This energy creates a vibrational frequency that circulates within us and transcends out side of us, connecting us and attracting to us other souls who either have similar vibrational frequencies or the spiritual energy/blue print that our soul requires for self exploration, and healing in this incarnation.

As a truth seeking single, I often take this philosophy into my dating life. Often times we cannot see ourselves objectively, and even when we can see ourselves we tend to ignore the less perfect aspects of ourselves and focus on the flaws and shortcomings of the people we are dating. By taking the Spiritual Dating philosophy on every date with you, you empower yourself because you are becoming aware of things that you might want to heal. Spiritual Dating for the truth Seeking Single in it’s simplicity reminds us that we are what we attract, and we attract to us the relationship we require at the time for further self exploration and healing.

Here’s an example of what Spiritual Dating for The Truth Seeking Single means, and how it can be applied for self empowerment and healing: Woman is asked out by man. Woman says yes because there is something about the man that she is very attracted to. Woman finds out that the man is a military officer. Woman is surprised by her attraction to an armed officer because she is a “peace advocate”. Man and woman date, and fall deeply in love. Woman is in conflict with her spiritual beliefs against war, and her love for her soldier. What should she do? If the Spiritual Dating philosophy is implemented in this scenario the woman can do a couple of things. The first thing she can do is a. continue to love her solider and remember that love heals all wounds, and is non-judgmental, b. tell the solider that war is against her spiritual beliefs and leave the relationship all together, or c. embrace and explore her own inner warrior or issues she may have regarding anger, rage, and forgiveness.

Spiritual Dating takes the superficiality out of dating and places the focus on inner work and self exploration which will ultimately lead to growth and understanding of self, which will ultimately make you a better partner if you so choose. So the next time someone ask you out on a date, shrug your shoulders and say yes if your are not busy. Allow yourself to show up exactly as you are, and realize that the person that you are dating is the person that you attracted so that you can heal, and grow, and learn more about yourself. Make Saturday nights count and date like a truth seeking single! Don’t forget to be present!

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9 Questions For Singles Who Are Ready For Marraige

Everything happens in Divine Time and in Divine Order—everything. That includes the time that you will meet your divine partner. Understanding the power of divinity will help you release the anxiety regarding meeting that special someone to share your future with. If we can relax our expectations and our anxiousness about entering into a sacred union, then we will be able to embrace where we are now, and experience the unity that is life.

It really breaks my heart when people come in to speak to me about their life goal to meet that special someone, and yet they are not treating themselves like someone special. Depressed, anxious, and self-loathing, they cry because no one has chosen them as the one; and they wonder if they will ever be chosen. They have done vision boards, meditations, prayers, on line dating, singles retreats, and the list goes on FOREVER. What has not been done is self work!

What I’m going to say may sting, but I’m going to say it anyway. If you are single right now, then you are supposed to be. So relax, and get down to business with numero uno—YOU!

Okay so you want to get married, yeah? Well let’s ask ourselves a couple of questions. The following are questions which will help you explore the truth about your readiness for a sacred union.

9 Exploratory Questions for the Ambitious Single Who’s Ready For Marriage.

1. If you met yourself today as is would you marry you? This question requires real honesty. Look at every aspect of your life financial, spiritual, health, attitude etc., and then ask yourself that question again. Many times the idea of marriage is something we fantasize about when we want to escape our current reality. News Flash: You can’t run from yourself; but you can run into yourself!
2. What are you bringing to the union? Let’s get real. Are you coming to give or are you coming to take? It really doesn’t matter which one you think you’re coming to do—give or take, because as soon as you enter into any relationship you will consciously and unconsciously give and take. Again, what are you bringing? This goes back to the honesty of question 1. With what you have to give now…RIGHT NOW, would you want it? If not—about-face, and get busy fixing you up!
3. Are you comfortable financially? Our society is full of people trying to “come up” financially by way of relationship, and that may work for a while; but if the consciousness is not there to sustain the financial “come up”, the relationship as well as the bank account will go bankrupt. Research shows that the majority of relationships fail as a result of financial distress. While you are single, get your money right!
4. Is there anything that you can do to get yourself in a healthier state? Yes, the vows say for better or for worse; but if there is anything that we can do to make ourselves better for our future union shouldn’t we be doing that? Don’t you want to live in perfect health and harmony with your Mr. or Mrs. Right FORVER!!!???
5. Is there anyone that you feel like you need to forgive? Unconsciously, we take our baggage from past hurts into our new beginnings believing that we are beginning again, when in essence what we are really doing is creating situations to heal past hurts. We are marrying our mothers. We are marrying our fathers. We are even remarrying our ex-husbands and ex-wives. The soul wants to forgive. So if you are single, and feel that there are people you need to forgive do so, so that you can really marry someone new, and have a new experience.
6. Are you comfortable with you sexual identity? That’s right I said it! If you are gay, do not lie to yourself and your partner and say that you are straight. Think about the heart ache down the line. It’s not fair. If you are bisexual, tell your man or woman straight up that every once in a while you might want to employ a third party or you might want to stay out all night. Communication—Honesty–Trust—Marriage—remember!?
7. Why do you want to get married in the first place? Do you even believe in the sanctity of marriage or are you under some type of societal peer pressure. Be clear about your beliefs regarding monogamy, polygamy, and the idea of commitment.
8. Have you clarified your spiritual beliefs/chosen faith/religion? Sharing the same faith is important for many people because when challenges present themselves in our sacred unions we often resort back to our spiritual foundation to help us become grounded and re-tie that sacred knot back together more tightly.
9. Are you willing to compromise—give and take and give some more? A sacred union is about give and take period. You give your time, money, spirit, love, life…everything. So just be ready for that, and make sure that the person you choose is ready for that also.

If you want to get married, then more than likely you will. In the meantime take inventory of where you are now, and work on you so when you run into you (your husband or wife) in the future you really feel ready…and worthy!(-:

I wish you love, love, and more love! Nadirah A. Shakir

Love & Detachment

Love & Detachment

” I fall in love easily. It’s because I’m always there.”

To be in real love requires a state of detachment, a kind of openness which will ultimately lead to the understanding of oneness and our connection to the Divine. This is what is meant by unconditional love.

Many saints have come to the realization that God is Love, and they act and serve from this consciousness. They are able to be detached from their actions/giving and just serve, however and whomever The Divine has led them to.

What if we all understood that love is not meant to be griped and contained. Love is Spirit. It’s as close to you as breath; but it forces you to do nothing. It flows endlessly and effortlessly to all. Those of us who intentionally open ourselves up to love benefit from it’s magic in the most amazing ways. Those of us who are closed to it, are probably the ones who believe in love with conditions; but have no fear unconditional love will make it’s way to you also.

Unconditional Love and detachment fosters growth and trust. Anything that is smothered will eventually loose breath and die. When we approach love in a manner of detachment we allow Spirit to enter in and work in ways that we ourselves cannot.

Some of the best relationships between husband and wife, parent and child are built upon the foundation of detachment. Detachment does not mean that the people in relationships do not care for each other. It means that they trust one another and respect each other enough to allow each other to grow. Relationships that foster a healthy understanding of detachment are more likely to last, because the individuals involve understand that we all belong to God, and it is that “God-Head”—Divine Mind that keeps us connected.

What attaches us to someONE is where we are in consciousness, and where we believe we will always want to be. What keeps us there is often how we feel about our personal growth while relating to the individual.

Those of us who see and experience God in everything–people–nature—music–food—traffic—whatever, are the ones who fall freely into the rapture of love—the arms of God; and this is our only attachment.

Wishing you freedom and personal growth while relating to whomever, Nadirah A. Shakir

For more on love, detachment, oneness, self love, and relationships visit any of the following links! Blessings!

My memoir Love pg 167 http://bookstore.iuniverse.com/Products/SKU-000141255/Before-You-Work-Out-Exercise.aspx, https://nadibody.wordpress.com/2013/11/24/embracing-the-relationships-around-you/